My Season...

Today is another day God has blessed me with!

I know we all tend to talk to ourselves and have a big back bone in the tone in our voice with what we'd like to say to people in our lives who seem to always want to complain about life?

If only they knew how much time is wasted complaining about things! Drama is something I've tried to remove from my life! Life is peaceful when there is no drama!

Personally, I'm in a season of learning to let go. Those close to me know I was engaged to be married to a man who I still love very much. I'm learning to move me up on the list we all should have... God then ourselves, family... etc.

All my life I've put others before myself! Whether it be my kids, my husband, family, strangers and then maybe me - It's always been this way as long as I can remember. 

This season has been one of the hardest for me because I feel I'm just not built that way. I know in my heart God is working on this with me and it is one of my lesson for this season. 

Knowing is step one of learning to change this about me so I will be prepared for what is next in my life. 

God hold's the biggest part of my heart and then there is my ex fiance'. I'm still mentally married to him! (Which comes to a surprise to some and not so much to others) It's like no matter how many times I've ask God to take the love for him out of my heart, his response has been NO! I don't know why, but I trust his answer to me. I have faith it will be revealed in God's timing. 

Letting go is a struggle for me. When things happen in my life my first thought is to pick up the phone and share with him. I now have taken those moments of wanting to share verbally to pray. At first I would just pray for him and ask God's will be done. I have now started praying for me. It's very odd because of my past with putting others before myself. 

Some who read this will not understand loving others more than yourself. It's a struggle for people like me to "move on" as I've been told. See my faith and season is teaching me a deeper love for others with the lesson of God wanting me to take care of me too!

I am human and change for any of us is hard but we ultimately have to for new growth! 

So far during this season I've seen such growth in me:
I'm able to speak to my ex fiance' and still see that wonderful person I fell in love with but he doesn't see in himself.
I've seen God bless me during the pain in my storm as I praise him in it.
Every time I've hit a low and lifted it up, God shows me what I need to know at that moment and blesses me!
My faith is stronger than it ever has been and I am continuing to learn about his timing and how perfect it is!

I prayed about the conversation I was going to have with my ex fiance' and asked for honesty. God gave me this along with learning to continue to listen not only with my ears but with my heart. (Which was the subject of a recent blog)

Learning to let go isn't always a process that takes a few weeks, months or years! My advise is: Each of our lessons are individual, just like our relationship with God. Some may fight God all the way and some may lean back and let him take control, which is always what he wants to begin with. Subtle nudges come from the Father letting us know he is there to take it from us - we just have to ask him!

Remember there is something behind every smile you see, laughter through the pain and love beyond our own understanding!

Be Blessed,
Dee

Listen with not only your ears but your heart too!

Do you find yourself so caught up in this fast paced world, when you don't get the answer quick enough you stop listening because you are already seeking the next question?

After much prayer about a personal matter, I prayed for honesty, along with courage and the words to say.  Today I sat down and had a heart to heart with this person who has been very close to me.

During our conversation I experienced a deeper form of listening. I shut up after I asked the question and just listened. Not only with my ears but with my heart. I was living in the moment and what I experienced was simply amazing! 

We all know that men and women think so differently! If we took more time learning to lean on God and taking our issues to him in prayer first our world would be so much different!

Philippians 4:7 (NIV)

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

To live this kind of peace beyond our own understanding is the most wonderful feeling in the world. If we live of or for the world there is turmoil, which the enemy delights in using part truths to spread his lies. Getting inside your head with doubts and fears.

When you allow this to happen you have no peace.

Job 3:26 (NIV) 

I have no peace, no quietness; I have no rest, but only turmoil.

God's timing is not always our timing, nor do we get many season with people we love. I have had to lean, let go and let God handle it.

Daniel 2:21 (NIV)

He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others.He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning.

Not only did I listen with my ears I also used my heart, and in the process I have learned - I can live in a moment, laugh through the tears all while sharing God's love Always!

Have a Bless Day,

Dee

Speak Life!

After our service today I found even a deeper meaning to the song and the video.

How many times do you speak negative things in your own life?

Proverbs 18:21 (NIV)

The tongue has the power of life and death,  and those who love it will eat its fruit.

It’s easy to not speak life in a simple question like; “How are you doing?” How many times do you tend to answer with something along the lines of “Oh it’s been rough…” then start naming off all the bad things that have been going on in your life?

We need to really think before we start to answer, sure things might not be the best as to what we would like in the worldly way but answering in a Godly way! “I’m blessed!” Because honestly we are if God has given us another day we are blessed aren’t we?

What we say does play a big role in how we see ourselves. Did you realize that the more negative things you say to yourself or others the more self doubt and disappointment in yourself we let into our minds. And as you know the enemy just loves to attack our minds and the way we think. If he can get a stronghold there he can have us spiraling out of our walk with God!

Once doubt starts to take over we tend to lose faith in all that we have been praying for, which has our walk beginning down the wide worldly path instead of the narrow one!

Matthew 7:13-14 (NIV)

13 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.

Learning to Speak Life, in you life is like anything else new in your life. It like changing a bad habit into a good habit. You have to set out to do it and repeat it over and over again until you have mastered it. Sort of like when we were babies learning to walk. We had to try over and over again and there were many times we stumbled and fell down before we mastered it.

We are all God’s children and often times like a I child we have to learn as we go to get to where we are going. Ultimately our final destination is our heavenly home!

Having a relationship with God will come with much ridicule at times. We can’t give up over a few folks who don’t understand our walk, our choices in life or how we let the Holy Spirit shine through us.

It’s up to us to open our eyes and allow God to guide us along the way.

Psalm 119:18 (NIV)

Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.

My prayer is for more of us to Speak Life into each others lives lifting each other up instead of swimming in a pool of pity, doom and gloom.

Take a moment to know how blessed you really are and spread laughter as you live and always share God’s love!

Have a Blessed Day,

Dee

Are you just the News Feed of the moment?

Recently, I made comment to a picture on Facebook. I purposely left it open ended. It could have been taken in a negative way, if someone tends to lean that way.

I was told my comment was meant to embarrassed this person. Which was the furthest from the truth. No matter what I said this person was convinced I was trying to make them look bad. I ended up editing my comment and added a public apology stating if anyone wanted to know why I posted what I did to send me a message.

Later that night I sent an email to this person letting them again I would never try to hurt them especially on Facebook, which was also in my edit to my comment on Facebook. Also added their life would be less stressful and happier if they wouldn’t worry about what other people think so much. There is only one person who’s thought really matters and that’s God!

I described the whole thing in a nutshell: “you’re just a moment of the Facebook newsfeed…” People don’t care about what was said, they’re more concerned about what’s important like family, friends and loved ones.

Unless of course they are people more focused on judging others.

God’s word talks about Judging Others:

Matthew 7:1-6 (NIV)

1 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. 6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

Often I see people judging others while not even seeing what they are doing as judging. A person who judges says something along the following:

That person is sinning / not sinning

(Or more descriptively)

That person is acting / not acting according to God’s will

(Or more secularly)

That person is acting in a harmful / non harmful manner

(Or more comparatively)

I am acting in a better / worse manner than that person

So often, when focusing on the world we don’t even notice when we are judging a book by it’s cover! We are human and it’s going to happen but it’s up to us to ask forgiveness, and to look in our own mirror.

What amazes me is how many people with really low self esteem are more concerned about what others think than what God thinks. Yes, we are human and tend to lean more on what the world thinks and the people in it.

We need to really dive into God’s word and pay attention to the people that are brought into our lives for a reason. God speaks to us in many ways it’s up to us to pay attention!

It could be a posting on Facebook, or in a conversation with someone close to you and even straight from God’s word!

Have you ever been offended by someone blocking you on Facebook? If we are honest with ourselves at first we are! As we start to question what could we have done to have this happen. Think about it this way, it’s their choice to do this and it could have nothing at all to do with you! As I’ve said before we tend to lean more toward our worldly rejection reaction then to step back and look at it as a blessing.

We all have choices in life and just because it’s not what we would do doesn’t mean we have to react in blaming yourself or something you could have done that caused it. People are brought into our lives for seasons sometimes.

I’m reminded of the passage:

Daniel 2:21

21 He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning.

Sometimes we need to look before and after the scripture which comes to mind:

Daniel 2:19-23(NIV)

19 During the night the mystery was revealed to Daniel in a vision. The Daniel praised the God of heaven. 20 and said: “Praise be to the name of God for ever and ever; wisdom and power are his. 21 He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning. 22 He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with him. 23 I thank and praise you, God of my ancestors: you have given me wisdom and power, you have made known to me what we asked of you, you have made known to us the dream of the king.”

How often do we not look at the bigger picture, the cause and effect, the meat of the meaning or in this case more of the before and after of the scripture that comes to mind as we learn even more as we try to grow closer and lean on our heavenly father!

Just sharing some love as I live another day and remember there is always a way to laugh. Let’s try harder not to judge others and remember when the season is ending as the next one is beginning!

Have a Blessed Day!

Dee

Forgiveness…

Have you been told the truth about forgiving is it helps you more than the person who needs the forgiveness?

Finding it in your heart to forgive is often hard to do.

God didn't promise us everything would be easy being a Christian, but he did say he would be with us always!

Psalm 73:23 (NIV)

Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand.

And if we are wronged there are scriptures on that too:

Matthew 5:38-40 (NIV)

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.

And one of my favorite’s on Love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.…

Truth, there’s that word again! Can you handle the truth Biblically?

We live in the world but are meant to not be of the world. We are to love one another! Just as it is written in his word.

Often when we have someone close to us, who we know are doing others wrong, when we speak the truth to them they don’t want to hear it. As a matter of fact, one of the first things they do is get a “how dare you” attitude! We are to sharpen each other.

That’s in God’s word too:

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

I started this out about forgiveness, and ended in Truth.

See Truth is until we forgive ourselves and let go of the past sins, God has already forgiven us for, we can’t reach out for what he has in store for us! Having our arms full of the pain, guilt or even regret’s in our past keeps our hands and arms so full how can we possibly reach out for one more thing!

We have to learn to give it to God and let go of it! We can’t keep reaching out and taking it back, really? God doesn't need our help with something we already gave to him to take care of.

God is a great big wonderful God and he has the answers for us all we have to do is ask!

Forgive yourself of that one thing, or more, that is holding you back from moving forward, drop the junk you're carrying around with you and lift your arms toward heaven and say thank you God for Everything!

Just sharing some love as I live another day and remember there is always a way to laugh where it may seem only tears flood your emotions. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, it will pass and you'll be better on the other side!

Have a Blessed Day!

Dee

How many times have you said to someone going through something they think is so horrible; "you just have to have Faith you'll make it through it"! Sometimes they just give you that look "you have no idea where I am and how alone I feel"! You know that same look you gave someone at your life crisis of the moment. 

Yes, we all will go through some sort of 'Life Crisis Moment'! but it's just a moment in time, this too will pass. We just have to keep our faith strong.

Faith, a word that means so much! It's the foundation on our belief that 'God's Got This'!

I wasn't always strong in my faith, it took years for me to realize God is in control of it all! From the times I didn't have have a job or enough money for food, the rent or bills. Or even when I found out my husband wasn't faithful with questions of how can I raise my children alone. 

When I look back now I see God always made sure I had a roof over my head, food in the bellies of my kids and all the bills where paid!

You maybe going through a season in your life right now and you're asking "How in the world am I going to make it through"? One day you will reflect back on this moment and see how you made it through when you saw no way - God made a way!

Today instead of having a pity party for yourself and letting the enemy attack your thoughts, lean on Jesus! Ask him for guidance and then most important listen to what he has to say!

If I've learned one thing about faith it's no matter how alone you may feel in a 'Life Crisis Moment' you are never alone! God is with you always! Just keep your Faith!

Just sharing some love as I live another day and remember there is always a way to laugh where it may seem only tears flood your emotions. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, it will pass and you'll be better on the other side!
Have a Blessed Day!
Dee

Seeking God...

I hope you're having a Blessed and wonderful day!

So often we expect so much to just come to you when it come to God's Blessings. Let me ask you a question what have you put into the process besides prayer?

Like any relationship you invest time in it to grow right?

Ask yourself this, what time have I invested in my relationship with God today?

Something to think about when you make time for that favorite TV show... will it give you anything in return?

Just sharing God's love with you today!
Remember to live to laugh and to share God's love with someone today!
Have a blessed day!
Dee

Let's get caught up again

So it’s been quite sometime since I’ve updated my blog. “Life happens” as they say.

There have been rough seasons and now a season of learning to listen to the small still voice and following through in Faith!

I will attempt to update at least once a week from this point forward.

Time to play catch up now…

I am the Morning Show Host of Live, Laugh and Share God’s Love in the Morning on Christian 107.3 

(Formally Lloyd and Dee in the Morning) 

along with 

The Deelightful Midday Show on Christian 105.7 (Beginning Nov. 10th)

So many times we let time slip through our hands only existing and not living!

Someone close to me is doing just this. Instead of looking at all the blessing they have their hung up on all the ‘junk’ of the past. I love the person very much, and it’s hard to bring them up when they are compelled to dig their hole even deeper.

I've continued to pray for them and be there for them but recently I found myself sounding like a broken record of ‘glass half full’ even though it appeared to be going on deaf ears. I had to remind myself at that moment “God’s Got This”!

Often times we think we can help people without it affecting our own walk. It’s at those ‘light bulb moments’ we find as the human side of us wants to just give up and reject them - God has other plans and a lesson to be learned from it!

Don’t give up on those ‘bitter people’ in your life! Continue to pray for them.

Believe it or not I was once a ‘bitter person’ too!

God has taught me so much in my years here on this earth!

Each lesson has taught me it is our choice to be ‘better’ instead of ‘bitter’.

So the next time you see that person who seems to suck the life right out of you when they are around, pray God gives you the words to say or how long to listen before saying a word.

We are all supposed to love one another and how can we do that with rejection toward what God has placed in your life as a lesson!

Just speaking from the heart and sharing a little more “Sharing the Love of God” with you!

Have a Blessed Day and remember to Live, Laugh and Share God’s Love with someone today!

Dee

11/3/2014